Written by Gabriela Blanco:
I was up late last night doing research on what balance meant and what counterbalance meant. I even spent all day observing my family and my interaction with them and vice versa.
After a day of hi and lows, after looking up the definition of both words, and testimonies through the blogs of others, I've come to one conclusion; chaos is absolutely necessary for the survival of mankind; therefore, mental health is the key to this locked door of survival.
Mental stability exists in everything we do, whether it is school, career, romantic relationships to friendships, and even in self-validation.
For everything that goes up and down, the option of going left and right exists.
For everything that is black and white, people can still see things in bright colors & dull colors.
For everything that is good and bad, there are justifications for it all.
So why is this? Why does contradiction exist? Do people not understand how much confusion is cause in the thought process because of it?
I believe it is because the power of CHOICE is what ultimately defines who you are and that power in the wrong hands is self-destructive. I have struggled with choosing and honestly, I have picked up the poor habit of being indecisive. Luckily, I am taking steps everyday to change that by simply reminding myself, "make the HONEST choice." It helps me to focus on what my heart and mind agree on. Helps me trust myself.
How often have you heard a loved one say, "I didn't have another choice..." or, "What else was I suppose to do?" Of course, we have probably said it ourselves to others. Now how often have you gotten upset because of their choices? How often have you been your toughest critic because of the choices you've made?
Being mad, angry, upset, or simply feeling let down is all a part of our brain activity. Though it is natural and normal to feel those things, if not treated properly, it can lead to major (or minor) mental disorders. Anxiety, stress and depression run DEEP in the black community; however, people do not speak about it to each other because they do not want to seem weak or like something is wrong with them. Yet, people get upset when something happens to their family or friends because that person decided to not speak up. BAM! Negative counterbalance.
The statistics are very much right in front of you, therefore do not hesitate to talk about what is right or wrong. Respect what other believe in because although you do not have to agree, you should always be understanding. Never know when judgement day will come for you. At the end of the day, it isn't your life they are basing a decision on, it is theirs! You must be understanding of the journey people decide to take with their lives. Life isn't personal; and if the choices others make are or seem that way, it is out of your control anyway, so why stress over it?
Counterbalance is an equal amount of force coming back. Feeling challenged? It is only because you are going back on what you have already made a choice on. Stick to your original plan; Follow through; TRUST yourself! The balance you create in your world is the one that is in tune with your mind, heart, and spirit! Don't contradict your own beliefs if you do not have the mental stability for it. Try new things, yes! But do not change the way you narrow you choices and make a decision just so you don't seem like a hypocrite. What others think about you isn't any of your business anyway.
Stay happy, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. It's key to surviving.
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