Sharing a Thought

written by: Gaby Blanco, HonduranQueeen

Though I haven't posted a blog in a hot minute, my creative writing has not ceased. I owe no one any explanations, or "excuses," therefore I will not bore you with my life; however, there is a thought I would love to share. Especially with all of the ladies who read this blog.

Here it goes: since life is a movie and you are the leading role, why don't you make the effort to co-produce the script?! Why not be an OWNER of what you present to yourself?

I notice a lot of my peers suffer from what I too have become a victim of in the past, and that is feeling sorry for yourself. Though it can be healthy for the ego (maybe twice a year to almost once every few years), I see more women into their superficial selves and what their heart desires rather then cultivating EXACTLY what they want for their future and well-being.

To all of the those who believe in FAITH and the divine (not necessarily on a religious level) you cannot under mind your efforts in meeting God halfway with what God has planned for you. <<< & that is for EVERYONE TO UNDERSTAND on a universal level actually, just THINK. >>>
Personally, I've become irritated and slightly annoyed when a woman voices out her weaknesses. And I do not wish to offend ANYONE!.. btw just know I can understand where you are coming from because I too have been there. Those thoughts are more of my timeshare rather then my vacation home now. I visit only when I have invested into feeling/thinking that way because I've placed myself in a situation where the outcome leads me DIRECTLY to that spot. It's never because I seek attention or want a pity party. That is far from a good habit for a lady to have, and I KNOW this. Whenever I notice myself getting down, I think about WHERE MY CONFIDENCE LIES. I know better then to think I require validation from anyone outside of my world, my mind, my spirit. My family cannot even tell me who I am without me KNOWING where I am heading first. Constructive criticism is healthy, however what others feel like YOU should renovate should first be mutual, and second be respectful. Know yourself because you ask and receive advice.

Be an OWNER:
What I mean by BE an owner is, when creating and enforcing a relationship (whether friendly, romantic, or business-orientated), know what you are getting into. Understand your feelings when getting involved with anyone. Understand every step that you are finding challenging to step on. Understand that nothing in your relationship with a person will have you in %100 full control. As women, we are vulnerable, however stronger and more intelligent then a man. Understand THIS! I shouldn't have to say, "only you make yourself happy," BUT I also extend my hands to those who want and need help. Trust me, I lack communication in the "help-me" department, but I kindly let myself know, I am simply getting ahead of myself. It doesn't make me or anyone weak when asking for help. It makes me stronger actually, and trust me, it should make you feel the same too!
Do not be an actor to what you want to call reality, because then you are just as superficial as a wax doll. What it is, is what it should be taken for, at all times. The truth isn't meant to hurt. It's mean to soothe and heal. It meant to set you free, and if you feel at any bit "sorry for yourself" then I challenge you to answer me this question: Where does your confidence lie?

Love yourself, better then any person can ever. Have high expectations when it comes to matters of your heart. Do not C H E A T yourself in believing something because it's easier to handle or swallow. CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO SEEK CONFIDENCE. Everything in the light shines onto your personna, your aura, which then snowball effects to your overall attitude and perspective of things. Life is truly as beautiful as you are and you MAKE it be.
I speak highly of love because I know that is the one element of freedom that is often manipulated for power. You don't have to believe in God, Jah, Allah to know that love exist at your sole core of your being that is your heart. Don't allow for your heart to trick your mind. You are more powerful then you {THINK.} LOVE is more powerful than any of us wish it was. Everything good, positive, loving, intelligent, resourceful, questionable deserves you energy. When you put your energy into light, knowledge illuminates your heart, spirit, mind, and core.

I want all of my peers& readers to know that CONFIDENCE is the one things no one can ever strip you of, unless you have never been in the face of adversity or humility. Don't become a victim of your circumstances because of your past. Remain humble, pick your battles, and KNOW when to shine! Look forward and be EXCITED to know that you possess the POWER to change your every curve on your body, every feeling in your heart, and ever negative thought in your mind to work for Y O U! The beautiful you is given the privilege to continue to seek your passion and live out your dreams.

Set your confidence meter and create a humble limit, and check it every day. Your ego will thank you later for it. Stay up even with knees bent!

Be at Peace. Cultivate Love. Consistently Complete Tasks.